I grew up as a biracial child to a single mom without the best backstory. She was [& still is] an awesome mom – she never missed one of my games, with the exception of a few from work schedule conflicts. EVERYONE knew who she was – her loud, passionate voice and confident walk could not be missed. Many people thought I missed out by it being only the two of us but I learned a lot from my mom and ANY family can learn some of these same secrets to raising a happy soccer family.
Communication in your soccer family
Communication is key in raising a happy soccer family.
Pretty much in every part of life, where there is good communication there is better success.
Whether it be at the job, sports, school, relationships…
None of us are mind readers, so it helps when we talk and listen to each other.
“One day it will all be over… Take advantage of the time together.”
3 secrets to a happy soccer family
1) Have a common goal
As a kid you are your parents’ everything…
They invest time, money, and love [plus energy, sweat, stress…] in their common interest – YOU.
So kids, talk about your goals and parents talk about yours – find common themes for the family.
For example: Kid + Soccer = 2 common goals that could result in a spoiled disaster.
However, if you recognize the sacrifice each makes for these goals and set additional ones [such as grade and work ethic expectations] then you’re both happier with the outcomes achieved.
2) Share one another’s commitments
For example, the nutrition needs of an athlete and a parent aren’t as different as you think.
Support one another in reaching for the healthy alternatives for snacking.
Our society is too burdened with obesity and stress.
One of the best ways to share time together is at the breakfast and dinner table…
Several studies show that eating together as a family builds unity and mental strength.
Building memories is valuable:)
Exercise together and use that time for enjoying the visit. Maybe it’s doing some floor exercises together at night.
3) Speak the same ‘language’ – VERY IMPORTANT
The number one language you should speak is RESPECT.
This should be followed closely by routines of engaging.
Before I got married I was encouraged to read this book.
The book was so awesome that my wife and I have used the techniques with our children as well (they have one for teens as well).
I recommend the book as an easy read [great for me] and that you use the techniques in talking about games, practices, giving feedback, etc.
For example, you might find that your child needs ‘high 5’s’ and hugs while your personal style is to debrief after the game.
No matter what your family structure is like, stay positive with one another and stay plugged in to what each other needs and is thinking.
You’ll be amazed at how much your family [& soccer] productivity will improve.
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